Confidence and Self Esteem

One of the most common drawbacks or problems for some children is that they have a low self-image. Meaning that they do not have self-confidence, which leads them to think that they may fail in any duty or task they perform, whether they feel that everyone despise them for their appearance or because of their failure in studies or other social or family conditions they are going through.

Parents first concern should be to focus on raising and teaching their children how to have greater self-confidence.

We (parents/caregivers), should support and help our children, no matter how old they are. I hear a lot of stories from other parents and I feel sad sometimes, but I can’t say a word, because they (those parents) were born and raised to behave like that. I’ll talk about this in a different article.

Lack of help and support lead to a lost society. When we (parents/caregivers) send our children to the street without education and awareness, this may lead to their loss, and unfortunately a loss of a future generation.

I have done some research on self-confidence and summarized some of them in (several ways), which are as follows:

Lots of love (personal experience, not research):

Our children need a lot of care, and psychological care is the most important thing, and therefore we must be careful in choosing the vocabulary in addressing our children. Love, tenderness and care strengthens the child’s psyche and makes it grow higher and appreciated. Because violence and indifference generate violence in the child and make him/her unstable.

There are some details that we do not pay attention to, but for the child, they are important, for example: Hug your child at least four times a day, upon waking in the morning, after returning from school in the morning and evening periods and before bedtime with use the words “I love you, my dear, my sweetheart,…”

Attention to the child’s opinion:

Yes, parents sometimes think they are always right! And the child needs to listen and follow the rules.

From what I read and benefited from through the book of the psychologist Khaled Abdullah Al-Shamroukh, that accustoming the son/daughter to express his/her opinion and respecting it makes him/her feel that it is important “The son’s opinion does not have to be correct, but at least give your son the opportunity to express his opinion”

This encourages him even to participate with his schoolmates by expressing a topic raised by the teacher, as well as in his social life. I used son as an example, since this may apply to me and to my son as well.

Facing failure:

We all experience failure differently, but the effect of failure on ourselves is the same.

Failure => frustration => depression

Facing failure is difficult, so one of the things that makes them face failure with the least negative psychological impact is self-confidence, and in order for a child to have self-confidence, he/she must face failure and not give in to failure.

If the child prevents his/her mind from thinking negatively about the problem, whether it is an academic failure after preparing himself or herself for the exam, and after great diligence, he or she fails and obtain a negative grade.

As a parent, we must ask the child:

What did you learn from the mistake? what you should do next time or in the next exam?, what you should not do on the next exam?

The story of Moana, the famous cartoon of an adventurous child, who lives with her parents and their people on an island. Moana sets sail for the first time in her small boat, but she fails after being surrounded by waves. But with determination and persistence, she overcame the difficulties, and led her boat across the open ocean. Repetition and not thinking about failure generates success.

Encouraging Sports:

From what I learned from a topic about children and trying to build their personality through the American Organization for Psychological Studies https:/www.apa.org

If you encourage your kids to practice sports, or anything useful, it makes the kids emphasize talents and personal abilities. These activities can build a child’s confidence, which can help them improve their social skills, develop interests, and inspire them to try new things.

It is also a good way for a shy child in school to learn in a fun, low-stress environment.

I hope the above information is useful and helpful!