Responsible Parents

I am saddened to see Serena Williams leave the tennis court. Maybe permanently. Damn…she was/is a legend. Uff…I shed some tears!

Serena and her sister Venus were coached by their father. It all started in public tennis courts, and some used tennis balls. As a responsible father, he used all his coaching skills and made from his daughters tennis world champions.

Richard Williams took tennis lessons from a man known as “Old Whiskey” and decided his future daughters would be tennis professionals after seeing Virginia Ruzici playing on television.^[2][5]Williams said that he wrote up an 85-page plan and started giving lessons to Venus and Serena when they were four and a half, taking them to practice on public tennis courts.^[6] Williams later added that he felt he took them too early and age six would have been more suitable.^[4] In 1995, Williams withdrew his daughters from a tennis academy and coached them himself.^[7] Within a few years, they were winning grand slam tournaments. -Wikipedia

Behavior:

Being a responsible parent is about more than raising our children. A responsible parent should change his/her behavior around their children. A responsible parent should quit all negative behaviors before his/her children become aware of their parents’ negativity. For example: a parent that smoke cigarettes should beat his/her craving and quit smoking before the kids start asking questions! Addicted? There are many many medical and therapeutic ways that someone could follow and do to quit smoking. It depends on the person smoking. Is he/she really willing to change for the sake of their children?

Co-parenting:

I believe that parenting should be equally done by both ( mom and dad.) I am not talking about single moms and single dads. The effort that a single parent is doing is well appreciated.

I am talking about the parents that are still together. Maybe living happily ever after, or living together just for the sake of their kids.

They both should be responsible for their kids, and responsible for their own behavior as well. Raising a child is a big responsibility, and it should be shared.

Just because a mother has given birth, it doesn’t signify only a mother’s responsibility towards her children.

A father is equally responsible for every minute detail of the child. In this way, both the parents can bond with their children and get to know about their kids likes and dislikes equally.

Fathers who co-parent become an inspiration for fathers who don’t. Raising a child is a very big responsibility, so it should be shared.

I have a friend who got used to the hustle and bustle of daily life. Married but living like a single mom. When I asked her until when she will keep punishing herself and living this ridiculous life? She said “Until the kids grow up and understand what a divorce means”

I get it! Some people live for the happiness of others.

And sometimes…we need to look a the picture below, and thank God for the beautiful little things we have…amid the difficulties.

***But one must look for freedom with responsibility. Sooner or later.